Stay in the Present-Poem

Stay in the Present-Poem

Stay in

The present,

Darling, for there

Are your solutions.

 

Looking into

The past

Only unlocks

More problems.

 

Remain here,

Darling, and

Focus on

Your surroundings.

 

Lost of

Sight will

Lead you blind

To the truth.

 

Don’t gaze

To the

Future, darling, for

It has yet occurred.

 

You’ll make

Yourself dizzy

In worrying

About uncertainties.

 

Stay in

The present,

Darling, for I

Am right here.

 

Let us

Bring resolve

To conflicts

Together.

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Holding On-Poem

Holding On-Poem

They told

Me to

Let go, but

I didn’t listen.

 

Now, I

Am left

With bleeding hands

And a bleeding heart-

 

All because

I couldn’t

Let go; I

Shouldn’t have held on.

Letting Go of Things for the Better

    Letting go is an art within itself. As you go through life, you will encounter positive and negative people and circumstances; you will have gains, and you will endure losses. Losses are able to be awful situations; but sometimes, they lead to beautiful moments. Losses don’t always come to us; we may be the ones to initiate interactions with losses. Hence, why letting go is able to be an art: it is able to be imperfect, messy, and hectic, but the destination may be one of hope, clarity, and peace.

    The process of letting go may be walking away from an unhealthy friendship or relationship that diminishes you, suffocating the very breath of your soul. Letting go may look like leaving a job in which you deal with problem after problem, making you despise the very thought of even entering the building. Letting go may be moving on from a goal you had to pursue something that will bring you more positivity than what you originally thought. Letting go may also be kicking a bad habit with which you struggle.

    I want to stress this: you are more than valid to let go of negative people, situations, and things. You do not have to be unfair to yourself in hurting your own heart, body, and spirit for what isn’t the best for you. You’re meant to be around positivity: positive people, positive situations, and positive things.

So, give yourself the courage, strength, comfort, and wisdom to let go of the people or things not meant to be in your life. Release them from your hands. Give yourself a fresh start as you begin to develop a new mindset. Replace hindering activities and habits with beneficial ones. Surround yourself with people who give you life rather than death. Place yourself in a work environment where you’re able to unlock your true potential and receive appreciation. Cut away the amount of time you put into social media, as well as the number of accounts you’ve created. Place yourself in nature and allow it to heal you. Go on more adventures-in and out of the state, in and out of the country. Spend more time living in the moment rather than allowing it to slip through your fingers.

    Letting go is okay; I promise you it’s worth it.

Experiencing Sadness is Okay-Just Don’t Stay There

    Hey, everyone, I have returned with another blog! I wanted to talk about the emotion of sadness, and how we experience it.

    According to Merriam Webster, sadness is an emotion that is an expression of being affected by some type of grief or unhappiness. We’ve all felt sadness in some shape or form. We’ve experienced sadness over a loss. We’ve endured it over circumstances not working out in our favor. We’ve become acquainted with sadness in stress and in hardship.

Yet, sometimes, we just simply feel sad. Nothing or no one needs to trigger the emotion; sadness sometimes just hits us out of the blue.

I want to use some of my recent experiences as an example. Lately, I’ve been overcome with some stress from my personal and professional life. However, I had a good day overall today. Yet, sadness somehow managed to envelope me to the point I was bawling out my eyes. Even coming out of it, I still don’t understand why it came over me as hard as it did.

    Thus, in regards to all of what I expressed, I just wanted to say that being sad is okay. It’s okay to feel unhappy. It’s okay to need to be alone. And, it’s okay to cry. However, we aren’t able to remain in sadness. We should embrace it, and let it go as if it’s an old friend. We are able to learn from it, and apply those lessons to our present and future.

I think the problem with a lot of people-including myself-is that we sometimes tend to stay stuck in our sadness because of a few reasons: it’s comfortable to where it feels safe; we’re sometimes scared to leave because of fears; and it doesn’t necessarily require work. We need to leave our sadness behind us and move on to hope and joy.

How are we able to strive for hope and joy? We need to overcome our sadness. We’re able to do so through some possible solutions:

  1. Partake in hobbies and activities you love, such as games, sports, art, music, reading, and writing.
  2. Surround yourself with positive people who’ll support you and love on you, even if they don’t understand exactly how you’re feeling.
  3. Receive help if your emotions become so severe and unmanageable through avenues such as therapy and medication.
  4. Reflect on your sadness and how you’re able to grow from it.

    Lastly, understand that sadness will always occur; but, it will also always end, and you never have to go through it alone.

Reference:

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sadness

Healing Takes Time

    We live in a pain-filled world. We will unfortunately run into the mouth of humiliation. We may encounter the hand of trauma. And, we may stumble into the depths of agony. However, we are able to heal from such sorrows-though, the wounds we carry may not heal overnight. Sometimes, time is needed in our quest of healing.

    So, what does this mean for us? How are we able to come to terms with the things we’ve endured? We need to evaluate the root of the problems. The root of a problem is able to be pulled out and analyzed. Yet, the root may be stuck for a while. It may be examined and prodded to uncover the meaning of the problem-and how it may have one or more solutions. Opening doors of grief and pain may be part of the process-but, in order to heal from the wounds, we ironically have to let them bleed.

    We will never heal if we avoid what we’ve witnessed. We will never be able to move on from certain moments in our lives if we don’t acknowledge they’ve happened to us. We will never taste the feeling of closure if we don’t close the door on the past. None of this is encouraging the past to be forgotten; rather, such concepts are encouraging us to not allow our pasts to negatively affect our lives and others’ lives. But, we’re only able to heal in time.

    Not only do we live in a pain-filled world, we live in a fast-paced world. We’re encouraged to just “get over things” and to not let them “get to us.” On the contrary, such methods don’t bring solutions, closure, or healing: they put a temporary bandage on a festering sore.

    Healing has to take time. Healing has to be a process of tears, vulnerability, epiphany, triumph, and declaration. Healing is not able to be a quick solution that occurs with the snap of our fingers. Healing should definitely not be avoided out of fear of confronting such issues or people. Healing needs to be met, accepted, and valued; it is able to help a person grow and to overcome pain.

    Healing may be scary; it may be time-consuming. But, healing is worth it for our mental, spiritual, and emotional health.

Surround Yourself with the Right People

People are able to shape us into who we are-and into who we will be. The actions and words of our peers are able to help or to hinder us in defining our character, our interests, and our desires. Those around us are able to make or break us as we navigate the highs and lows of life. Therefore, we need to be careful with whom we have surrounding us.

    The best bet in having a healthy mindset and healthy self-esteem is to be around the right people-people who are compassionate, intelligent, thoughtful, open-minded, joyful, appreciative and selfless; people will who encourage you, not discourage you; people who will commend you, not condemn you; people who cause you to crave growth in your character, not cause apathy in your being; people who are able to admit their wrongs and who are willing to fix them, not victimize themselves and not attempt to rectify their errors.

    When we surround ourselves with people who do nothing but complain, judge, deceive, manipulate, bully, and degrade others, we become influenced by their negativity. Our mindsets are clouded by toxicity and strife. Thus, we fall in our integrity. Likewise, when we surround ourselves with people who repeatedly self-victimize, who refuse to change, or who are selfish, we become more likely to stay the same and to adopt an indifferent, hopeless, or conceited mindset.

    Fortunately for us, we have the free will to pick our inner circle. We are able to surround ourselves with positive individuals who will help us to grow. We are able to choose to walk away from negative individuals who do nothing but stunt our growth. Life is already hard; therefore, when we surround ourselves with the right people, life becomes a little more bearable.

OCD and the Fixations in My Head

    Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (or OCD) seems to be a much used phrase in everyday sentences. People may say their “OCD” kicked in when they had to clean; their “OCD” was triggered by messes surrounding them. Such statements aren’t completely wrong-though for those who truly have OCD, the disorganization or filthiness may not be so much a nuisance as it is a fixation.

    My OCD practically rots out my brain with fixating thoughts. I constantly dwell on whether or not I cleaned, locked a door, fed my cats, etc. Even when I’m reassured chores or tasks have been completed correctly, I still fret over the what-ifs. I obsess over making sure my foods don’t touch together on the same plate. Depending on the foods, I may not be so bothered by them touching as I may be about still eating each food individually and not together.

    However, my biggest fixation is of numbers-especially when it comes to social media. I calculate over and over again how much money I have on me, how many cards I have in my wallet, how many gifts I give receive. I especially fret if I don’t have an even amount of CDs, stuffed animals, or figurines. When it comes to social media, I can’t help but gaze at the amount of friends/followers on my friends list, as well as how many likes I received on some posts or pictures. When I’m unfriended, I can’t help but cling to that lost number like it’s an old friend. Except, it may not be the case; it’s just my obsessive thoughts burning away any sense within me.

    Some days are better than others: I am able to control the impulsive thoughts and not give into the fixations. Other days are worse than others: I’m practically drowning in the compulsions and obsessions. I know the root of the problem is my anxiety. When my anxiety is increased, so are the obsessions and compulsions. Anxiety and OCD combined are like poison, draining me slowly of health.

   However, I know others and I will be okay with therapy, medication, and a healthy support system. The obsessions and compulsions don’t have to win, nor do the fixations. Instead of me drinking the poison, the anxiety and OCD are able to instead.