Speak Life or Death

    Words are powerful; in fact, they’re more mighty than we give them credit. With words, God breathed life into existence. With words, leaders throughout history captivated millions into fighting for and believing in what was right. With words, writers and performers craft stories that touch our very souls. Words are not only powerful, but they’re important. Your interactions with others, your motivations in causes, and your perception of yourself are able to speak words of life or death.

    I’m sure you’ve experienced some negative situations in your own life. Maybe your father called you stupid and now you feel insecure in having big goals. Perhaps you struggle with how your appearance because some peers in high school made fun of you for how you looked. Maybe a significant other made you believe that you were the source of problems in the relationship and made you feel that anything you said or did was worthless. Such circumstances are examples of words of death.

   Words of death are like poison we’re forced to drink: they make us lack self-esteem, feel that our dreams are silly, and destroy our value in relationships. Such negative connotations create feelings of rejection, doubt, and fear in us.

   Thankfully, there are positive experiences, too. Perhaps a teacher complimented you on how well you did throughout the school year and created feelings of pride within you. Maybe your grandparents supported you in your goals of being a doctor, and were so happy to see you accomplish those dreams. Perhaps your child thanked you for all you’ve done for them. On the other hand of words of death, we have words of life.

   Words of life are like seeds of encouragement in our lives. Even when we face opposition, positive voices are able to help us continue to strive and to pursue our dreams. Words of life boost our self-confidence, fill us with joy, and give us hope.

    We’ve all experienced both words of life and death being spoken to us in our lives. We’ve spoken positivity and negativity over others’ lives. At the end of the day, words are able to break us or make us. With words of death, we have to break the hold they have over our lives. With words of life, we have to use them to help us keep going.

     So, what will you do? Will you loosen the chains words of death have over you? Will you speak words of life, not only over yourself, but over others? Choose wisely.

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Anxiety Worsens Situations

    Anxiety acts as both the bullet and the gun in confronting problems within and outside of yourself.

    Anxiety makes you constantly over-analyze a situation until you’re beating it to death in your mind. It makes you overthink what you should say or do when your supposed, exhausted solutions craft more conflicts for yourself. It makes already poor situations rich with doubt and strife.

    Anxiety makes you think it’s your objective assistant in making your life easier; in reality, anxiety is your subjective accomplice in making your life harder.

    I am able to recall numerous experiences in which I gave into my anxiety, and it ended up making matters worse. In craving for an ex to sit down with me and to work things out, I became overly pushy, insecure, and heartbroken; he then walked away from me because I didn’t give him space to think. In resolving conflicts with friends, I became smitten by fast and immediate solutions; I then became beaten down by long-lasting, entangled conflicts with people who begin to doubt my role in their life as a healthy friend. In wanting to improve my character, I overworked myself to the point I barely had anything to give to anyone or to myself.

    Anxiety makes you feel defeated when all you want to do is win at least once in your life. Yet, anxiety doesn’t have to be the end-all to resolving conflict. For my own life, I’ve learned that writing down my feelings and receiving accountability have assisted me in obtaining a more logical, stable perspective. Attending therapy has also been helpful in receiving objective standpoints in why I have anxiety over certain circumstances and how I am able to handle them in a more appropriate, calming manner.

    Anxiety may be the catalyst in worsening situations. However, you have the power to defuse anxiety before it explodes.

Stay in the Present-Poem

Stay in the Present-Poem

Stay in

The present,

Darling, for there

Are your solutions.

 

Looking into

The past

Only unlocks

More problems.

 

Remain here,

Darling, and

Focus on

Your surroundings.

 

Lost of

Sight will

Lead you blind

To the truth.

 

Don’t gaze

To the

Future, darling, for

It has yet occurred.

 

You’ll make

Yourself dizzy

In worrying

About uncertainties.

 

Stay in

The present,

Darling, for I

Am right here.

 

Let us

Bring resolve

To conflicts

Together.

Letting Go of Things for the Better

    Letting go is an art within itself. As you go through life, you will encounter positive and negative people and circumstances; you will have gains, and you will endure losses. Losses are able to be awful situations; but sometimes, they lead to beautiful moments. Losses don’t always come to us; we may be the ones to initiate interactions with losses. Hence, why letting go is able to be an art: it is able to be imperfect, messy, and hectic, but the destination may be one of hope, clarity, and peace.

    The process of letting go may be walking away from an unhealthy friendship or relationship that diminishes you, suffocating the very breath of your soul. Letting go may look like leaving a job in which you deal with problem after problem, making you despise the very thought of even entering the building. Letting go may be moving on from a goal you had to pursue something that will bring you more positivity than what you originally thought. Letting go may also be kicking a bad habit with which you struggle.

    I want to stress this: you are more than valid to let go of negative people, situations, and things. You do not have to be unfair to yourself in hurting your own heart, body, and spirit for what isn’t the best for you. You’re meant to be around positivity: positive people, positive situations, and positive things.

So, give yourself the courage, strength, comfort, and wisdom to let go of the people or things not meant to be in your life. Release them from your hands. Give yourself a fresh start as you begin to develop a new mindset. Replace hindering activities and habits with beneficial ones. Surround yourself with people who give you life rather than death. Place yourself in a work environment where you’re able to unlock your true potential and receive appreciation. Cut away the amount of time you put into social media, as well as the number of accounts you’ve created. Place yourself in nature and allow it to heal you. Go on more adventures-in and out of the state, in and out of the country. Spend more time living in the moment rather than allowing it to slip through your fingers.

    Letting go is okay; I promise you it’s worth it.

Experiencing Sadness is Okay-Just Don’t Stay There

    Hey, everyone, I have returned with another blog! I wanted to talk about the emotion of sadness, and how we experience it.

    According to Merriam Webster, sadness is an emotion that is an expression of being affected by some type of grief or unhappiness. We’ve all felt sadness in some shape or form. We’ve experienced sadness over a loss. We’ve endured it over circumstances not working out in our favor. We’ve become acquainted with sadness in stress and in hardship.

Yet, sometimes, we just simply feel sad. Nothing or no one needs to trigger the emotion; sadness sometimes just hits us out of the blue.

I want to use some of my recent experiences as an example. Lately, I’ve been overcome with some stress from my personal and professional life. However, I had a good day overall today. Yet, sadness somehow managed to envelope me to the point I was bawling out my eyes. Even coming out of it, I still don’t understand why it came over me as hard as it did.

    Thus, in regards to all of what I expressed, I just wanted to say that being sad is okay. It’s okay to feel unhappy. It’s okay to need to be alone. And, it’s okay to cry. However, we aren’t able to remain in sadness. We should embrace it, and let it go as if it’s an old friend. We are able to learn from it, and apply those lessons to our present and future.

I think the problem with a lot of people-including myself-is that we sometimes tend to stay stuck in our sadness because of a few reasons: it’s comfortable to where it feels safe; we’re sometimes scared to leave because of fears; and it doesn’t necessarily require work. We need to leave our sadness behind us and move on to hope and joy.

How are we able to strive for hope and joy? We need to overcome our sadness. We’re able to do so through some possible solutions:

  1. Partake in hobbies and activities you love, such as games, sports, art, music, reading, and writing.
  2. Surround yourself with positive people who’ll support you and love on you, even if they don’t understand exactly how you’re feeling.
  3. Receive help if your emotions become so severe and unmanageable through avenues such as therapy and medication.
  4. Reflect on your sadness and how you’re able to grow from it.

    Lastly, understand that sadness will always occur; but, it will also always end, and you never have to go through it alone.

Reference:

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sadness

Healing Takes Time

    We live in a pain-filled world. We will unfortunately run into the mouth of humiliation. We may encounter the hand of trauma. And, we may stumble into the depths of agony. However, we are able to heal from such sorrows-though, the wounds we carry may not heal overnight. Sometimes, time is needed in our quest of healing.

    So, what does this mean for us? How are we able to come to terms with the things we’ve endured? We need to evaluate the root of the problems. The root of a problem is able to be pulled out and analyzed. Yet, the root may be stuck for a while. It may be examined and prodded to uncover the meaning of the problem-and how it may have one or more solutions. Opening doors of grief and pain may be part of the process-but, in order to heal from the wounds, we ironically have to let them bleed.

    We will never heal if we avoid what we’ve witnessed. We will never be able to move on from certain moments in our lives if we don’t acknowledge they’ve happened to us. We will never taste the feeling of closure if we don’t close the door on the past. None of this is encouraging the past to be forgotten; rather, such concepts are encouraging us to not allow our pasts to negatively affect our lives and others’ lives. But, we’re only able to heal in time.

    Not only do we live in a pain-filled world, we live in a fast-paced world. We’re encouraged to just “get over things” and to not let them “get to us.” On the contrary, such methods don’t bring solutions, closure, or healing: they put a temporary bandage on a festering sore.

    Healing has to take time. Healing has to be a process of tears, vulnerability, epiphany, triumph, and declaration. Healing is not able to be a quick solution that occurs with the snap of our fingers. Healing should definitely not be avoided out of fear of confronting such issues or people. Healing needs to be met, accepted, and valued; it is able to help a person grow and to overcome pain.

    Healing may be scary; it may be time-consuming. But, healing is worth it for our mental, spiritual, and emotional health.